Scott's post yesterday got me thinking about what we talk about as writers, and why. I then started thinking about other aspects of my life and what I talk about with people. Do we as humans feel a certain need to connect to others with our same interests? Would writing a novel and never sharing it be a completely different experience internally than writing the novel, talking about the novel all the time, and then sharing it?
Perhaps these are silly questions, but I like to ask them anyway. Mostly, I see a need within people to gain approval for what they do and how they do it, and what's interesting about this is that while I see this more and more in others' behavior, I see that need diminishing within myself. Thank heavens.
I've grown up needing validation for everything.
So I've been on this sort of streak to gain more balance and approval within myself rather than seeking it elsewhere. A blog is an interesting thing because we put our thoughts out there and then wait for comments to come in. We want to know we are being heard - or at least I think most of us do. Some people I know just blog without a care whether anyone reads it or not. I have one of those blogs. It's called my journal and nobody can read it but me. I don't seem to write in it very often, and I think that might say something about me that I don't want to reflect too deeply upon at the moment because it probably contradicts everything I'm striving for right now.
So I'm just throwing out some thoughts today about why we talk about what we do and what we expect in return. I know that as I get more books published, the less interested I am in reading the reviews. It's not that I don't care about people caring enough about my work to write a review (even if they hated the book); it's that I'm getting to a place where my writing has less to do with other people and more about refining a craft that's becoming more and more private by the day. That's where I've always striven to be, but getting into the publishing world has really twisted me around and upside down.
So why do you talk about writing? I'm interested to know! Do you talk about it to connect? Compare? Just get it out there? Because people ask and you feel they want to know?